How to be nice... It sounds simple, and it is, the problem is that our society has (by design) caused us to become self-centered in our thinking. We are much more likely to be hateful and mean rather than patient and kind. We are quick to be vengeful and slow to be forgiving. We tend to want things to go our way and when they don't we are very quick to hurt others in order to bend reality in our favor. Learn to be selfless, that is the key to being "nice".
When you hold the door for someone the reality is that it will take some of your time. That person may be slow getting through the door and you may end up getting stuck holding the door for a long string of people. It's quite possible they may not even acknowledge your sacrifice. Being nice means that you don't mind offering your time to others and you aren't doing it for praise or any other reward. You are doing it to be nice to them.
You're probably thinking "There are some people who don't deserve anything nice". Chances are, those are the people who need it the most. There are some people who deserve a break if for the simple fact they've never experienced a nice gesture before in their life. This can make some people bitter, angry, and resentful. Sometimes a lifetime of bitterness can create a strong shell. A front that the world sees as hateful and sour. You may not immediately see the results, but a single act of kindness with nothing asked for in return and no "agenda" can start to crack that shell and you may be the one who starts that process just by being nice.
So don't limit your target, don't come across as having any other agenda but being nice. Don't look for reward, just get out there and hold doors, carry groceries, return shopping carts, pick up litter, put money in other people's parking meters, smile and make eye contact with a homeless person, take time to talk with someone who has no friends or family, thank someone who has a thankless job, call an estranged family member, become friends with the "weird kid". Just be willing to sacrifice yourself for others and not expect anything in return. That's how niceness works.
If we're gonna start a movement then we'd better start with a mission statement. at nice turtle.com our mission is to:
"Provide products and services that remind everyone in the world that they should love their neighbor as themselves and encourage the kind of love Jesus shows"
Wow, if that sounds like a tall order, well... it is, but the rewards of such a world and the eternal reward for each individual are well worth the effort. There is a whole spinning blue and green ball of rock and water out there steeped in a self serving attitude and filled with people who posses "the world owes me this or the world owes me that" mentality and they all just need LOVE.
When you wear "nice turtle apparel" just think about what the little green guy on your chest is saying to the people around you and remember that Jesus loves EVERYONE from the most vile criminal to the nicest friendliest person you'll meet. So the message is literally for everyone!
When you are not wearing "nice turtle apparel" remember the same thing and just pretend your shirt says "You are a very special person and I love you just like Jesus does without prejudice and without concern for what you do, will do, or have done and I want you to know that!!!!"
That is how the movement will take place but it has to start in our hearts. In order for you to exhibit true love you have to put God in control of your life. To do that you need to know what He did for you in order to understand the gift of eternal life with God as opposed to eternal death without Him.
In the beginning God made man in His image and without any sin. God chose not to force man to love him because genuine love can never be forced. Man chose to disobey God and as a result became sinful and separated from God. God knew that man in his sinful nature would not be able to do anything to bridge the gap between man and God so he sent His only son Jesus to live in the flesh as a man and live a perfect life then he would be crucified as a sacrifice that would pay for the sins of all people who accept Him as their savior and choose to follow Him. This sacrifice bridged the gap between sinful man and the only Living Holy God.
Now that you know how much God loves you, if you accept Him then you will seek to love other people as you love yourself. If you were just nice to people all of the time and you never let Jesus be the Lord of your life then it would be pointless because all of your good works would be wasted since salvation is the result of faith and not received by works.
So in reality that is where our mission starts, in helping the world understand God's love so they will share that love with the rest of the world. Let's get to it and start loving your neighbor.